The Shadow Side of Sex

Secret sex.  Shadow Sex.  Shame.  Scandal.  Clandestine Affairs, Hidden, Private.  Lying.
Pornography, magazines, movies, chat rooms.   Secret rendezvous's, motels, hotels, alleys, highway rest-stops.  Cheating, infidelity, mistresses, secret side-lovers, prostitutes, call-girls, escorts, gigolos.  Strip-clubs, sex-clubs.  Masochism.  Sadism.  Abusive.  Violence.  Rape.  Molestation.  Incest.  Sex w/ animals.  Sex-addiction.  Compulsions.  Fetishes.  Regret.  Sexually Transmitted Diseases.  Sexual Dysfunction.  Self-Punishment.  Self-Denial.  Self-loathing.  Fear.

Sex is a natural act, a loving expression shared between two or more consenting individuals, for the purpose of  pleasure and/or procreation.  It is an opportunity to merge energies/bodies with another; A coming together or union between one being and another.  It is the energy upon which the Totality operates and functions.  EVERYTHING is an act of sex- the union of the energies present, merging with each other to give rise or birth to NEW Experiences- from the creation of universes to flowers and trees to a rainstorm,  to all the processes within a human body, to a cake being made and baked, to a piece of music or art being made or performed.  Sex should be honored and revered for the divine expression it was made to be.  But with the creation of duality, what arose was the shadow side of sex.   We went into hiding parts of our sexual selves from others and even ourselves.  The denial and repression of aspects of the self, fed the shadow, giving it a life of its own.    

You have individuals compelled to participate or act out a myriad of sexual compulsions. Why?  Because the drive is so powerful that until the individual is conscious of the energy, they are at the mercy of it-  like a puppet on strings, dancing out the movements the energy wishes to play out or express.  All interactions are a combination of the interacting energies, a composite, if you will.   Within the dance of duality, competition has reigned supreme.  And so it has often been a case of one faction or energy competing with another for dominance.   Just like different aspects of the individual compete to have their perspective expressed and their needs met or satisfied, so too have we wrestled with what one part of us wants and how that fits in with what we feel we should do, or what others expect of us.  Leaving us to reconcile these when they don't match up.  And so we may act one way in secret while pretending to be another way in public, dreading that others may uncover the lie.  Like the husband or wife cheating on their spouse, or the politician or celebrity in a sex scandal, or the church or educational institutions involved in sexual abuse with children, we as a society are rich in the Shadow Side of Sex.    

So how do we heal the shadow?  Should we feel anger, horror, regret or shame for these sexual actions, (whether they are our own or expressed by others in the world around us)?
Well, we MUST honor whatever emotions are generated, and we MUST accept responsibility for the energy within ourselves that gave rise to this energy or these acts.  We need to be able to claim it as our own before we can have power over it.  Then we can deal with it, releasing and moving through the experiences.  As long as it is not harming another, meaning one is not forcing another to participate in an act against their will, or one is not participating in an act with an inappropriate partner (a baby, child or animal), then we are the ones responsible for dealing with the consequences of our actions and choices, and for deciding how we wish to EXPRESS ourselves in the Sex Act.  Everything is connected to one's level of consciousness.  The more consciousness one brings to their experiences, the deeper and more profound the experiences can be.  Let's compare it to skimming on top of the surface of the water to diving deep - the deeper you go, the more you see, and the more you feel.   It doesn't mean that shallow sex or anonymous sex can't be satisfying- it can, but sexuality was created to be much more than that.  Just as with the shadow, sex can be quite a destructive force, its potential for being a profoundly healing, regenerative and transformative experience is massive.

We need to be proud of who we are and how we act- no hiding from ourselves or others.  Honesty with self and others, really is the best policy.  We also need to honor the Sacredness of The Sex Act- accepting and healing the Shadow within us- learning from it, not judging it, embracing and forgiving whatever gave rise to such experiences or energies, and choosing to release it in Love, as we step into our wholeness and express that wholeness in every area of our life- the workplace, the community, the world, and of course the bedroom (or wherever you choose to healthily EXPRESS yourself sexually!)

The Dance of Two

I've a way with words,
like Casanova with women.

Words flow from lips
like honey in hot tea.

Syllables slip out of pen and mouth,
seducing eyes and ears,
crafting notes and whisperings of love.

I am the sublime
the sensual
the sexual soul,
the most tuned in expansive energy
you've ever tasted.
My love, unconditional, is not to be wasted.
Dive in, soaking yourself in the waters of emotional and physical bliss!
Taste the honey and love in my kiss;
And know and feel the gifts I've for you,
as we dance the dance of two!

Musically INSPIRED!

As the melodic magic moves inside,
and lyrics and heart collide,
I'm lifted on music's wild ride.
Take me deep, take me high,
don't be shy.
No need to run or lie.
Are you brave enough
to feel what's real?
Played the slave enough,
ready to seal the deal?
Play for me music man;
Tease me with your tunes and hands.
And when we're done and nothing's the same,

just remember, Inspiration's my name.  

naked before you

Now only Angels call,

Demons no longer stalk.

I've cleared the field

and reset the clock.

And the Light of Love shines bright within,

Salvation reigns where once was sin.

Standing naked before you
Staring into eyes
present and unashamed.
I've no ghosts haunting
in mind or soul.
I've reclaimed my space
and made me WHOLE.
And in my wholeness I reflect to you
the beauty and TRUTH floating within you.
And Pray that you can see
Your Love within Me.

Healing the Archetype of the Prostitute in us All.

We walk in shadow lands
afraid to see inside of us
-to own all of us.
But if we cannot claim every piece of self, then how can we be
complete?
Instead we walk fractured,
embarrassed to acknowledge the broken pieces
we easily see in the faces and actions of others.
And so these words are for the shame of the prostitute within us All.
For the parts of Us that sold off pieces of ourselves
for gains(?) that consumed us.
What can be gained in a grasping hand that doesn't believe it's a hand that can hold?
The shame of the lie, as integrity's shadow negotiated deals it had no intention of honoring.
We walked with the memory of honor
-neglected, taken for granted, abused, and sold for tragic tokens of love, affection, wealth
 and power that crumbled in our hand and crippled our spirit.
We felt the sweet sinister creep of shame and was forced to listen to its quiet endless taunt
reminding us of our greatest failures.
We tried to pretend that it wasn't there lurking inside of us.
Behaving like the wounded children we were,
throwing tantrums and stealing other's dignity
to cover the deep scratches in our battered and bullied hearts.
We were studs or sluts, depending on Body's costume and the prevailing opinion of the times.
We destroyed bodies and leveled lives with ravenous appetites
-inconsiderate of actions' consequences.
So now we claim responsibility for our participation in the plundering and degradation
of our Sacred Essence; the callous capitalization and business of base animal sex,
and the images feeding the addictions of ego, eyes and flesh.
Pawns of Pleasure and Pain in tawdry power plays and games
As we sought dominance over, acquisition and possession of others
- All mere pieces of our Self.
Releasing judgment
We accept and love it All!
For we had to crawl
before we could fly
and walk as tiny fragile wounded humans
before we could be the Gods and Goddesses we ARE!

Owning our shadow selves and actions.
Kneeling before All,
asking for forgiveness.
Releasing all that would tarnish our Radiant Being.
The time for being ashamed of Abusing our sexuality is over,
as we open ourselves to the Earth
and activate the True Beauty and power contained in our centers Sacred-
fully connected through the belly and heart to the Divine as it flows through these bodies physical.
Healing and transforming these wounds that have run out of time.
Stretch into your Glory,
seeing your sex as the Gift it is.
Meant to be respected, cherished and shared in beauty and love.
The need dissolves to fill the space of lack,
for you know that you have all you need within.
And in this knowing,
we come together as two whole beings-
Uniting and Delighting in LOVE!

LOVE RECLAIMS
 -REPAIRS
 -REDEFINES
 -RECREATES
 -REMEMBERS It's Perfection!

You are loved and you are Worthy! There is nothing that you could have done that would make you
any less loved or any less worthy- REMEMBER That!!! KNOW that!!!  Thank You for Existing!
All my Love, Jamie

Taste of the Divine

I have tasted the Divine and the sweetness melted my sour soul.  
I have glimpsed the Divine and the beauty healed my blind eyes. 
I have felt the warm embrace of the Divine and it soothed my shivering soul.
I have heard the beautiful Divine's song and it fixed deaf ears.
I have kissed the Divine and my lips seared with an exquisite pleasure like none they've ever known. 
I have known many things. 
Some of them were truths that did not stand the test of time, 
for they were only wearing the mask of Truth.  
The only thing that passed the test of lifetimes stacked upon lifetimes, 
was the experience of Divine LOVE that gives rise to ALL Things, 
now, then and forever. That I can call that LOVE my SELF is the greatest gift I could ever receive.  

Have you tasted your deliciousness today?  -The exquisite richness of your spirit as it dances within your beautiful body?  If not, sit in stillness, embracing silence as it takes you by the hand, leading you into the most ecstatic and sensual knowing of Self.  Awaken to your divinity Beautiful Being- remembering that you are Perfect, Whole and Complete Right NOW!  Knowing that you are LOVED Unconditionally, right now!  With the light of Love, Jamie

Apology to the Feminine and Masculine Energy within Us All:

***NOTE to the Reader:  As you read through this, know that the words are infused with a healing energy which will tap into and clear all stored similar energies from your Four bodies (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual).  I hold the space for Your Health, Happiness and continued Evolution! All my Love, Jamie Ferry

To the Divine Feminine Energy/Presence within us All, we come to apologize for anytime we:

Hurt you, abused you, neglected you, raped you, murdered you, stole from you, hated you, rejected you, dishonored you, denied you, feared you, discarded you, deceived you, didn't love you, protect you, provide for you, nurture you, share with you, saw ourselves as weak because of you, thought you were ugly, inferior, superior, inadequate, weak, shameful, a bother, manipulative, nagging, sinister, slutty, bitchy, were embarrassed by you, ashamed of you, called you names, disrespected you, resented you, tortured you, caused you to cry, run, cower, hide, blamed you, destroyed you, craved you, dominated you, bullied you, victimized you, enslaved you, disempowered you, deserted you, abandoned you, betrayed you, ravaged you, frightened you, saved you and then demanded re-payment, assaulted you, stalked you, framed you, manipulated you, persecuted you, condemned you, chastised you, cursed you, negated you, cheated you, forced you, preyed on you, suffocated you, held unreasonable expectations or delusions about you, or treated you in any way unbefitting the Beautiful, Amazing, Divine Feminine Mother Goddess YOU ARE.

To the Divine Masculine Energy/Presence within Us All:

We come to apologize for anytime we:

Belittled you, betrayed you, abandoned you, deceived you, castrated you, condemned you, harmed you, assaulted you, disrespected you, abused you, murdered you, stole from you, manipulated you, tortured you, raped you, destroyed you, cheated you, stalked you, hunted you, possessed you, enslaved you, frightened you, suffocated you, dominated you, cornered you, persecuted you, shamed you, embarrassed you, rejected you, discarded you, controlled you, neglected you, bullied or victimized you, resented you, hated you, feared you, mislead you, dishonored you, called you names, thought you were ugly, inferior, superior, weak, inadequate, lacking, stupid, didn't love you, nurture you, protect you, provide for you, or share with you, or treated you in any way unbefitting the Beautiful, Amazing, Divine Masculine Father God YOU ARE.

We accept responsibility for it all- Apologize for it All, forgive ourselves for it, forgive others, and release it ALL Now.  We ask the energy of LOVE to come in and clear all the memories, related energies and effects from our space, and fill us with the perfect, purifying energy of Source LOVE.

Thank YOU and So it is! 

A Thank You to the OTHER

Beloved OTHER (Mother, Father, Brother, Sister, Friend, Enemy, Lover):

We dreamt a billion dreams and built a billion lives.  We danced, we fought, we made love, we explored, we expanded and contracted and expanded again.   I became the worst in you and the best, and you the worst in me and my best. We harmed each other and the world. We healed each other and the world. We played and sang and wrote the stories of lifetimes on the waves of time and space and unfolded our divinity in worlds vast and different.  

And here we are now,  playing again- oh how I love to dance with thee- in the space of uncertainty or clarity- for me it matters not where we may be, so long as we are there- TOGETHER.  To you I extend my hand in gratitude, and thank you for being everything you are!  For wearing masks of beauty and ugliness with the grace of the Divine- for showing me the totality of my minute self and my magnificent self- for reminding me of my weakness and my strength, for revealing to me the TRUTH of whom I AM. You are my Blessing, no matter what clothes or face you wear, you teach me it all, and allow me to teach it all to you.  Thank You- for Breathing, for Being, for Believing in your greatness and mine! Thank you for showing up and playing out whatever emotions beg to be unearthed and set free from within you and me!  Thank you for floating through the thoughts that flood the space, longing to find a place to be seen, known and expressed.  Thank you for acting in all the ways we are/were meant to act.  Thank you for being open to exploring the spaces in between me and you and all the worlds that are the playgrounds of the Divine.  My heart fills with love for you and an overwhelming gratitude for all our chances (past, present and future) to play together!

All my love, Jamie 

The Dance of The Elements

Water floats in, in Air's tender embrace.

Air glimpses Fire burning bright in the corner.

Fire feels Earth's firm hand grasp its;

While wind twirls itself about the room,

breezing by friends and lovers.

And they all move gracefully through the space.